I’m one of the admins/moderators for my area of the UK Lolita fashion community, so I get a lot of questions about Lolita fashion all the time. I know there’s lots of amazing, in depth resources out there,so over the next few weeks I’ll be writing a few requested posts, compiling a bunch of resources and food for thought in general about Lolita fashion that new members can learn from, and more experienced members can hopefully enjoy.
Today’s topic is: Hosting a Lolita Meet. (But it could be applied to any hobby meetup) This was a requested post, since many girls are new and want to host meets, but feel a bit shy about doing so.
Step 1: Gauging Interest
If you’ve never been to a meet up before, I’d suggest attending one before hosting your own. But, if you fancy hosting one and just don’t know where to start, this guide should help.
Make a post in your community suggesting the event. If it’s an existing event like a vintage fair, share any available information about it so that people can read more and get excited! Your post could be something as simple as “I saw this event and thought it would be really cool to go, is anyone else interested?” or “I really fancy trying out this place, does anyone else want to go?” You can also use a poll to find out which dates are convenient for those interested.
It also kind of works as a form of advertisement for the event, and allows you to overcome any initial problems. For instance, you might want to try a new café, but might not know which food intolerances they cater for, if they have disabled access or whether they accept bookings – now you’ll have to find out!
Some events may only be suitable for members of your community who are 18+ years old. That’s okay as long as you make it clear, and also try to host events that aren’t only 18+ too!
Step 2: Make your Event
Most Facebook groups have an “Events” tab at the top of the page where people can freely make events, in some cases you may have to contact an admin/mod about making an event. You may not be able to do this through mobile Facebook!
Here is the initial information that people will need:
- The date of the meetup
- Where to meetup – I recommend a train station with good connections as many may not be able to drive
- What time to meetup
- The amount of money they will need for the day (approximately)
- A general plan for the day (not 100% needed, but stops people getting bored and annoyed on the day)
- If there is a theme for outfits (I would strongly suggest an optional or suggested theme, so that nobody feels left out if they don’t have items in a particular style)
2- 4/5: a walk in this nearby park / shopping in this area of town
Do I need to take deposits?
Step 3: Final Confirmations
Step 4: Meeting up
Step 5: Your Duties as a Host
- Make an effort to speak to everyone, especially if they are new to your community
- Try to mingle as much as possible, pay attention if you see someone feeling shy/left out
- Make sure nobody is left behind if walking around in big crowds
- Stay organised! You’re in charge of the bill at a restaurant and making sure everyone has paid
- Take opportunities to make things convenient, if you see a cash machine ask everyone if they need to stop for cash
Extra Special Stuff
- “Getting to know you” games like 2 lies 1 truth are great conversation starters
- Card games like cheat are easy to get involved in and make people more comfortable
- You could even write a fun quiz or do something cute like make a snap cup
- Before now, I’ve organised events in collaboration with a café: we were signed up for afternoon tea, but also had our tea leaves and tarot cards read by a psychic
- If it’s an extra special meet, like a birthday party, you might want to get things like party favours or instax photos but these are never compulsory!
- You could introduce a competition element around an activity – people could bring baked goods to be voted on, people could draw words out of a hat and make the next big AP print design etc. I would never suggest a co-ordinate contest as lolita should be fun, not competitive.
Step 6: After the Meet
Hopefully now you will have all the basic information you need to plan your meetup, but if you feel like you have a question please feel free to leave a comment or check out one of these resources below.